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For those who’ve lived in la, does dating suck less in San Diego?
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Been out in la for four years. Many of the men here are narcissistic and have the non commital newer shiny toy around the corner mentality which causes them not to get emotionally involved with the person in front of them. I’m not really into military men but for women 30s and 40s how’s dating in San Diego? A tad more down to earth hopefully?
Edit: for the red pill type guys who wanna jump in and say derogatory things—I don’t have a strong desire for the picket fence or children so those choices never guided my direction while dating
Thanks
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Spoiler: dating sucks everywhere
Quelle applications/sites de dating vallent la peine au Québec pour les jeunes adultes à par Tinder?
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jme cherche un chum thanks
Top Comment: J'ai trouvé que OK Cupid a fonctionné le mieux pour moi.
Le phénomène nord-américain "Are we dating the same guy" arrive en France............ : AskMec
Main Post: Le phénomène nord-américain "Are we dating the same guy" arrive en France............ : AskMec
Prada L'Homme for dating?
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Unfortunately my budget allows for only 1 high quality fragrance, and I need one for office/day-to-day stuff. I was sold on Prada L'Homme. Is it a decent choice to use for evening/night dates? Or should I be saving money to get another one for dates as well? I'm Male in 20s
Top Comment: Does wearing help you feel confident and comfortable? That's the question you want to ask, and whatever perfume this is, is a great candidate for your signature scent if your budget allows for a minimal collection.
Why is dating in LA so difficult?
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Hi all I (25M) went to USC and now live in Santa Monica and I’ve had almost no success dating, why is it so difficult out here?
I noticed a few things. I have no idea where other people my age hang out outside of nightlife. I’ve also noticed any time my friends and I try to talk to women at bars or clubs, they always want nothing to do with us. We’re extremely friendly and try to make casual conversation but they always act like we’re bothering them. I’ve never experienced this kind of hostility outside of LA. I don’t ever see high concentrations of people my age at any events—it’s usually always late 20s to early 30s. This has naturally led to reliance on dating apps.
I went to a good university, have a good career trajectory and I also workout, play pickleball and hike and would ideally like to find a girl who checks similar boxes. After trying the last several years with girls that fit my criteria (see above) and meeting endless rejection or ghosting, I recently tried substantially lowering my standards to see what would happen... only to be met with endless rejection and ghosting.
It’s an endless cycle of going on 1-2 dates before the girl either ghosts or flakes on the next date we set. It’s extremely rare to get an actual text expressing lack of continuing interest.
I think I’ve reached the breaking point. I’m typically not one to give up, but it seems like no matter what I do, it ends the same. I just want a healthy, loving, caring, supportive relationship.
I have historically always done better with women in person. Where can I meet women in their early to mid 20s on the west side?
And how is it possible that dating can be this difficult? I feel like it shouldn’t be. Dating is supposed to be fun and exciting not exhausting.
Edit: Addressing some common comments. I mentioned schooling, career, and gym because I would ideally like a partner who also does these things and I was trying to communicate that my expectations aren’t inflated. I do them and would like someone who also does them.
I really like pickleball and it would be cool to meet a girl through it.
Personality: My other interests include reading, writing, cooking, traveling, chess, history, golf (I’m not very good), and camping. My favorite book genres are dystopia, science fiction, historical drama, and historical biographies. I wrote a novel that I’m in the process of editing and it would be really awesome to get it published at some point. I’m a huge foodie and I like trying my hand at new recipes. I’ve been to 20 countries and I’m shooting for 30 under 30. I play chess everyday and I’m in the novice range 1100 ELO. I love history, if money wasn’t an issue, I would devote my time to studying history. I have a set of golf clubs and have been trying to get more into it. I am in love with camping and unfortunately can never persuade my friends to go. I think camping is one of the most fun activities but it seems most people would rather stay in an Airbnb. I think that rounds out my hobbies and activities.
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Why is dating in LA so soul-crushing?
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I (24f), who is emotionally available, and genuinely trying to date seriously in this city. But I swear, dating in LA feels like trying to have a meaningful conversation at a rooftop bar where everyone’s wearing sunglasses at night and pretending they don’t know how to feel?
It’s either: • Men who are hot, charismatic, emotionally unavailable, and treat intimacy like a 14-day trial, or • Men who are available, “nice,” and want a relationship... but have no friends, no social life, and treat you like their emotional support animal.
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What is the dating culture like in LA?
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Hey r/asklosangeles,
I'm curious about the dating scene here in LA. Is it common for people to date multiple people at the same time before deciding to be exclusive with someone?
I've heard different things about dating in big cities and I'm wondering how it works specifically in Los Angeles. Any insights or personal experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated!
I'm very curious and have super high expectations about the mentality of Angelenos.
Top Comment: I think Reddit is the worst population to survey about this topic. I thought dating in LA was a lot of fun (recently and happily married). And, yes, exclusivity is not assumed until you talk about it (which can be anywhere from immediate to years in).
Dating in LA in Your 30s: What’s Your Experience?
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I’m curious to hear about your experiences dating in LA as a woman in your thirties. Have you found it challenging, fun, or somewhere in between? If you’ve lived in other states, how does dating there compare to LA? Personally, I’ve been living here for about a year and a half, and I have to admit, it hasn’t been the best. Would love to hear your thoughts and see if others have had similar or different experiences!
Top Comment: In my experience the key to dating successfully in LA is to explore things you're interested in and say yes to going to things you may typically not go to. You'll end up building a community that way and eventually dating will be the last thing on your mind and that's pretty much when you'll attract a fruitful dating experience.